And if you’re up for it, letting her spank you might feel just as good. (It’s not clear whether men are turned on by being spanked or doing the spanking. We’re going to go ahead and assume both are very possible.)

About 60 percent of both men and women also reported that they’ve tried BDSM with a partner, the survey found. Nearly 60 percent of women also said they regularly engage in nipple play, bondage, biting, and blindfolds. (Here are nine secret erogenous zones she’s dying for you to touch.)

If you and your partner have both expressed interest in getting a little rough between the sheets, ease into it to figure out what you both like. Here are four great ways to try rough sex tonight. Combine those tips with the techniques you’ll find in How to Pleasure a Woman—the ultimate sex manual from Men’s Health—and we guarantee you’ll blow her mind.