Worried you don’t last long enough in the sack? Most couples aren’t doing it for as long as you might think, according to new data from Lovely, a sex toy and tracking app for couples. After collecting information from 432 couples and more than 2,000 sexual encounters, the company found that sex typically lasted only 12 minutes for the average couple.
So, how can you extend your time in the sack in a way that gets both of you going? Here are three great moves to get you started.
1. Touch Her Everywhere
She has all sorts of secret erogenous zones—like her neck, legs, and back—that are begging to be touched. Read up on how to give a woman a great massage for specific tips and tricks. (And if you want to make things extra sexy, incorporate this massage oil from the Men’s Health store.)
2. Make Oral Sex a Priority
In a recent study, 37 percent of women said they need clitoral stimulation to orgasm during sex. One of the best ways to work the thousands of nerve ending on the nub of her clitoris? You guessed it—cunnilingus. Give these oral sex moves you’ve never tried a shot.
3. Experiment With Sex Toys
Find a sex toy that will help increase pleasure for the both of you, like this awesome couples massager. (Plus, finding the right sex toy for you—like this vibrating cock ring—can actually help you get harder and last longer.)
All these techniques will work her up before intercourse even becomes a thing, increasing her chances of coming more quickly once you move past foreplay. Just keep in mind that duration doesn’t always paint the whole picture. And it shouldn’t stress you out to the point of anxiety, which can be bad news for your erection.
One more tip: Occasionally trying new sex positions or having sex in a new place can make things just as fun if you want to switch it up—even if you don’t last as long. Some women even prefer to keep things short, since going too long can get boring and mess with her lubrication.